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Date: 2003-12-04 07:37 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-12-04 08:08 am (UTC)- No.
*sigh* >_
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Date: 2003-12-04 07:38 am (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2003-12-04 08:10 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-12-04 07:42 am (UTC)Or am I missing something?
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Date: 2003-12-04 07:48 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-12-04 07:52 am (UTC)I take it she's done these things? Or is she just refusing to grant custody while she gets these done at some nebulous point in the future?
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Date: 2003-12-04 08:09 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-12-04 08:17 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-12-04 09:41 am (UTC)I've been in that situation, although as the minor who was handed off. You may be able to get full custody like my dad did, although the courts tend to be biased towards mothers. If you can get a professional willing to state that your custody would be in the best interests of the child, though, you may be able to do it.
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Date: 2003-12-04 08:23 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-12-04 08:52 am (UTC)Dear Lord in Heaven....
Date: 2003-12-04 09:46 am (UTC)My previous offer stands if you decide to take this to court. If this has to be fought in Santa Clara County, I'll make a few phone calls and try to find the most vicious family attorney that I can for you. And if it gets really ugly, I'll ask my mom to stop by on her way up north.
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Date: 2003-12-04 11:28 am (UTC)I know you love your son, and I know you want what's best for him, and I honestly believe from what I know, that she is not, nor will she be within a reasonable time span, what is best for him. I'm not saying she shouldn't be a part of his life, after all, she is his mother, but he needs some stability.
I've spent a little while now feeling horrible for him, because especially at his age, he needs to be more grounded and have some security. She obviously can't offer that to him, and until she can, full custody staying with her, is not the best idea.
I wish you the best in this very difficult spot, and I hope that you will seriously consider all the options to you. There is nothing more important in this situation that Alex, and ultimately, he will be the one to suffer for any decisions that are made in haste, or because it's convenient. My thoughts are with you in this very difficult time.
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Date: 2003-12-04 11:49 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-12-04 12:04 pm (UTC)Okay, uh, keep records. Of everything. I don't know if you can record your phone calls, but keep answering machine messages. Keep emails.
It's HARD to fight for full custody when you're the man, but if you've got lots of proof that she's putting her own comfort before her son's... you'll have a strong case, at least.
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Date: 2003-12-04 12:06 pm (UTC)Document everything to death and use it to full effect.
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Date: 2003-12-04 04:35 pm (UTC)It depends on the state/combination of states. Federal law and the laws of thirty-eight states and the District of Columbia permit individuals to record conversations to which they are a party without informing the other parties that they are doing so. However, there are twelve exception states, where all parties must consent to recording: California, Connecticut, Florida, Illinois, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, Pennsylvania and Washington.
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Date: 2003-12-04 08:35 pm (UTC)no subject
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