I know you've said before you don't want to do this, because you don't want to hurt anyone or go through the financial/mental difficulty, but you seriously need to fight this. If that goes to court, than so be it, but somebody needs to start considering what is best for ALEX, not just whatever suits their whims at the time.
I know you love your son, and I know you want what's best for him, and I honestly believe from what I know, that she is not, nor will she be within a reasonable time span, what is best for him. I'm not saying she shouldn't be a part of his life, after all, she is his mother, but he needs some stability.
I've spent a little while now feeling horrible for him, because especially at his age, he needs to be more grounded and have some security. She obviously can't offer that to him, and until she can, full custody staying with her, is not the best idea.
I wish you the best in this very difficult spot, and I hope that you will seriously consider all the options to you. There is nothing more important in this situation that Alex, and ultimately, he will be the one to suffer for any decisions that are made in haste, or because it's convenient. My thoughts are with you in this very difficult time.
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Date: 2003-12-04 11:28 am (UTC)I know you love your son, and I know you want what's best for him, and I honestly believe from what I know, that she is not, nor will she be within a reasonable time span, what is best for him. I'm not saying she shouldn't be a part of his life, after all, she is his mother, but he needs some stability.
I've spent a little while now feeling horrible for him, because especially at his age, he needs to be more grounded and have some security. She obviously can't offer that to him, and until she can, full custody staying with her, is not the best idea.
I wish you the best in this very difficult spot, and I hope that you will seriously consider all the options to you. There is nothing more important in this situation that Alex, and ultimately, he will be the one to suffer for any decisions that are made in haste, or because it's convenient. My thoughts are with you in this very difficult time.