(1) You don't have to necessarily believe that you have a reasonable chance of success. In fact, it's bet not to believe you have a chance of success. Instead, believe that your success is guaranteed. YOU WILL SUCCEED, maybe not right away, but eventually. (2) Don't accept failures (don't take them as total failures) - merely think of them as failed attempts. These are merely set-backs, they can help inform you about the nature of the problem, which will allow you to succeed FASTER.
I wouldn't recommend trying to make confidence "rational" or "logical" - it's not. It's like any other emotion, irrational and often, in face of evidence, very likely to be wrong.
On arrogance. I believe that arrogance is belief in perfect success, success without setbacks. That, and being an asshole about it.
The key to self-confidence, I believe, is abandon the "chance" of success. Decide that you -will- succeed. Be the captain of your destiny. Seek out every opportunity, every avenue. Stating things as a having a "chance" of success implies automatically a "chance" of failure. Get rid of those "chances." Screw Fate. Screw Luck. This is about the application of WILL, SKILL, and ELBOW GREASE. YOU affect the world, YOU are able to decide what you do, how you react, in every situation.
Now, you can't control how other people react, or what they do, but you can heavily influence them. How you appear, how you carry yourself, what you say, what you do, what you bring with you - all these things help you to influence the decisions of others.
BUT there is ALWAYS more than one way to solve a problem, often several. Decide that you'll solve the problem and then do it.
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(2) Don't accept failures (don't take them as total failures) - merely think of them as failed attempts. These are merely set-backs, they can help inform you about the nature of the problem, which will allow you to succeed FASTER.
I wouldn't recommend trying to make confidence "rational" or "logical" - it's not. It's like any other emotion, irrational and often, in face of evidence, very likely to be wrong.
On arrogance. I believe that arrogance is belief in perfect success, success without setbacks. That, and being an asshole about it.
The key to self-confidence, I believe, is abandon the "chance" of success. Decide that you -will- succeed. Be the captain of your destiny. Seek out every opportunity, every avenue. Stating things as a having a "chance" of success implies automatically a "chance" of failure. Get rid of those "chances." Screw Fate. Screw Luck. This is about the application of WILL, SKILL, and ELBOW GREASE. YOU affect the world, YOU are able to decide what you do, how you react, in every situation.
Now, you can't control how other people react, or what they do, but you can heavily influence them. How you appear, how you carry yourself, what you say, what you do, what you bring with you - all these things help you to influence the decisions of others.
BUT there is ALWAYS more than one way to solve a problem, often several. Decide that you'll solve the problem and then do it.
THAT is confidence.